In six bite-sized chunks I’m going to give you the whole truth about a past-time that has become part of the fabric of the lives of single people everywhere where a computer screen is affordable by, or accessible to the masses.

1. Two out of every five single people aged 24 – 50 currently use, or have used an online dating service. Yes, you read that correctly – it’s 40%! Now think of all the single friends you have; how many of them have actually told you that they’ve signed-up to a site in order to kick start their love lives? Not many I would wager. That’s because in spite of the popularity of the medium, there is a still a social stigma attached to dating sites; when people meet a partner this way, they generally pretend to their friends that they’ve met in a bar or at some kind of party or work related function. One of the fastest growing activities in the world is still something most people wont admit to doing.

2. Only about 5% of people who join dating sites actually end up in a relationship with someone they first make contact with at their chosen site. Let’s equate this to the ‘real’ world; you walk into a room full of one hundred strangers and how many of them would you be attracted to? Probably no more than ten. And that’s if you’re lucky. It’s the same in cyberspace – how many total strangers will there be on any site that really press all the right buttons for you? So when you register with a site, don’t expect miracles because your love life in cyberspace is no different to the reality of everyday life.

3. Only 10% of people who join dating sites get any messages at all from other members. There’s a reason for this – the other 90% don’t deserve any success. People who refuse to upload photos of themselves or post profiles which look like they can’t really be bothered to say anything about themselves will just be ignored. The 10% who get noticed create upbeat, confident, humorous profiles, don’t have any qualms about posting a picture of themselves and are proactive about contacting other members. If your site doesn’t work for you, you shouldn’t blame the site just as a bad workman shouldn’t blame his tools.

4. Popular dating sites are popular for one reason and one reason only. They work. In every territory, you’ll find a handful of sites that outstrip all the others in terms of the volume of their registrations and their reputations in general. You’ll also find that none of these sites are free. The sites which look the best, have the best features and offer good customer service are expensive to run and maintain. You get what you pay for on line as well as in all walks of life; if the owners of a dating site don’t have the confidence in their product to actually charge for it, you have to ask yourself why that is. Relatively speaking, joining a dating site is very inexpensive compared to, say, going out for a nice meal or taking a trip to the theatre and the potential of finding a great new relationship makes the risk/reward ratio a no-brainer.

5. Global sites which can boast hundreds of thousands of members from all four corners of the globe are a waste of time unless you’re looking for a pen-pal. These sites might sound rather impressive – “We have 5,000,000 members worldwide!!” – but so what? What you should be concerned with when you’re choosing a site is how many members they have in your city, your town or your village. So if you’re serious about finding a partner, stick to city or country specific sites like DatingPortlandOregon.com, and take the ‘global’ hype with a pinch of salt.

6. The percentage of men on dating sites is disproportionate to that of women. Most services comprise about 60% men and 40% women so as far as the on line arena is concerned, it’s the girls who are calling the shots. They have more choice and can therefore be more discerning about who they contact or write back to. So guys, if you want to stand out from the crowd, check out paragraph 3 above; write a great profile and post a flattering pic and you’ll be just fine.

So there you have it; to make a success of online dating, all you have to do is pick the right site and post an eye-catching profile and photo and if it works for you…don’t keep it a big secret – tell your single friends all about it so they can get a piece of the action too

Do you ever wonder why girls just don't seem to express interest in you even though you seem to give them everything they want? Well, there's a reason for

that. Here are some singles dating advice steps and a few tips you can keep in mind to add some substance to your love dating without making an effort.

Picture the stereotypical guy that all the girls want. What is he like? Blond hair and blue eyes? Curly hair? You're wrong. None of those things actually play a big role. It doesn't matter what your eye color is, or how much acne you have (well… if you have so much you look like a mutant, that could be a problem), as long as you hit a few key points that girls are attracted to. I'll show you how to become much more attractive by focusing on yourself instead of the girls, which I think is much easier to do.                                                                    

Steps

1. Girls are naturally attracted to the alpha male. This is the leader, the most powerful one in the pack, and the one that can provide the mostfor them. This means strength. Not necessarily physical strength (although it helps), but more importantly the emotional stability. A guy needs to bestrong enough to take care of himself in order to take care of her, and a girl can easily spot which ones fit the picture.This is an initial step todating girls.
2. Be independent. Remember that guy I had you imagine in the intro? We'll call him "The Alpha" for easier reference later on. Would he go cryin a corner if his friends weren't there, or crumble under peer pressure and do what everyone tells him to? Definitely not. Be strong enough to say no,and be strong enough to survive on your own. If someone tells you to smoke crack or shoot heroin or something stupid that you don't want to do, say so.Your judgment is as good as anyone else's, and no one has the right to make you do something you don't want. This is a powerful dating technique.
3. Be individual. Would The Alpha go and buy the shoes and jeans and shirt that 99% of insecure guys are buying? No. He doesn't care what othersthink about him (don't overdo this part, as you'll see in the next point) and gives in to his own sense of style. No girl would want a generic guy thatcan be replaced by someone else and not see any difference.
4. Respect yourself. This is very important. When I said you shouldn't care what others think about your appearance, that doesn't mean toss on arandom raggedy T shirt and not comb your hair just because you're too lazy to. A girl can tell when a guy cares about his appearance, and that shows heknows how to take care of himself. Which brings us back to one of my original dating help points, that you can't take care of anyone else without taking care ofyourself first. Shave. Put on a slight scent or deodorant (don't overdo this either, read the desperation point). Groom yourself. Stand up straight.Pick neat clothes that fit you. Also, don't curse (or at least not when you can help it), but don't be 100% conservative orthodox either. Just be agentleman and have a life at the same time.
5. Respect others. Treat both the girls you're interested in and those that you're not in the same way. Singles dating has been misinterpreted forfar to long.This doesn't mean flirt with everygirl, but don't ignore or be dismissive towards those that don't tickle your fancy as much. Also, don't be too pressing when talking about personalthings, and don't be judgmental of others (at least… don't voice it). If you're with a girl, don't comment on how pretty or hot another girl is,because that will make them question their own appearance.Remember..You're on a date.
6. Don't appear desperate.You're in the safe dating zone. This includes wearing too much smell. Not a concern when starting online dating. A smellshouldn't ever be used to bring a girl to you, but only to bring hercloser after you've already gotten her attention. If someone can smell you from 3 feet away, you're wearing too much.
7. Don't complain about things you can't fix (like the weather). You can mention how gloomy it is or something but don't constantly say how muchyou wished the sun would come out. Don't spread rumors or talk about people behind their backs. This makes the person you're with question whether ornot you talk about them in the same way when they're not around. Stay classy.
8. MOST IMPORTANTLY: Don't have ANY expectations. What? Then why did I just tell you all this if you aren't even supposed to expect a change?I'll tell you. Having an expectation influences your behavior immensely, especially if you are out dating again. If you start talking to a girl, don't expect to get her number, or ask her out,or anything. Then you'll feel pressure, and you'll start to become uncomfortable, which causes you to not fully be yourself. You'll inevitably say ordo awkward things. Just talk to her. Treat her as a friend. Think about all the things I told you as things you do to improve yourself, and not to geta date.

Tips

• If a guy came up to you at the mall and tried to make friends with you, what would you do? Blush and stutter and do awkward things? Probablynot. If a girl comes up to you, even if she's drop-dead gorgeous, treat her the same way. It'll have her coming back for more.
• Basically, it means don't have any dating interest in anybody. It's harder than it sounds. You just have to hold it back until you arecomfortable with the girl, and then it'll be easier for both of you.

Warnings

• Basically, what I'm getting at here with this whole article is how you can change yourself to be a better bachelor. Follow my advice, andyou'll probably find more attention. BUT DON'T GET EXCITED. Always keep your cool, remember who you are, how you should act, and you'll most likelybe successful.
• If you happen to start talking to a girl and you falter, and things get awkward or you start running out of things to say, walk away. Notrudely though. Avoid awkward moments at all costs, so if it happens, make up an excuse to leave. Then you can regain your composure and redeem yourselfnext time.
• Remember, keep that Alpha mindset. Be a leader and a big figure. That doesn't mean to boss people around, but to act like you are the naturalleader.
• Be brave, stick up for yourself, and be secure.

Things You'll Need

• Common sense
• A good heart
• A classy mindset