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Celebrating The Holidays Single – Tips For Fabulous Holidays As a Single! DatingPortlandOregon-com

Make Celebrating the Holidays Single Your Most Glorious Celebration!

No, you are not the last single person on the planet celebrating the holidays by yourself this year.  It may feel like it when all you see are ads for happy couples having a good time.  From youth to the elderly, there are millions of people celebrating the holidays single and  enjoying their alone time this year – right beside you!

Holiday depression and anxiety over being single are common – That means you are not alone with your melancholy feelings of past holidays made special because of other special loves in your life – Gone past.

1. Call a friend for a Holidate – Arrange with a close friend who you like spending time with to come with you to family celebrations.  If all your friends have other plans, find a friend who is new to your area and invite them – Holiday orphans benefit twice, they get to know a family they wouldn't have known otherwise and they meet other new friends – You!  Don't know where to go to find a holidate – volunteer for a day at any place where you would meet a lot of people – Hospital, library, dog pound, animal rescue.  Places to avoid:  pubs and bars.  Holidates take the pressure off of going to family functions – Alone.  Families have an (in your 'best' interests concern) anxiety producing pressure for single people at holiday time.
2. Try something new or learn a new sport – Take an interesting exercise class to help relieve stress and anxiety – like yoga.  Go at peak times for the added benefit of maximizing meeting people potential.  Learn a new hobby or sport - Ice skating or skiing (FYI – Snowboarding is pretty cool, but if you are hanging out in the lodge instead of skiing you will be found out quickly as a 'fraud,' and opportunist – Go outside and Play!).
3. Volunteer somewhere that interests or intrigues you or join a club you find interesting – Geek club, book club, Sky diving club, or form your own club – walking club for instance.
4. People know people, so make a flyer about yourself and pass it out to your close friends and colleagues and ask them to give it to another interesting single person on your behalf.  Offer a "REWARD," for a successful (holiday) first date! (cup of coffee at a popular coffee bar, a coffee mug, pair of socks, keychain . . . )
5. Leave your ex ALONE.  Believe me, you won't be sorry.  Keep your feelings of love for an ex who has moved on completely to yourself – Hold a 'exorcising of those feelings,' and let them go – Do whatever you need to do to make that happen.  This works both ways – If you are the one who knows your ex still has feelings for you let them deal with their feelings alone.  To do anything else is cruel, selfish and dishonest of you and it will come back to haunt you in the form of rejection and hostility and maybe even stalking.
6. Give your emotional immune system a huge boost by ignoring the New Years Eve junk about lovers kissing at midnight.  There are far more people NOT kissing at midnight than there are actual people kissing at midnight on New Year's Eve Under a magical globe with streamers and confetti falling down around their shoulders as horns and romantic music explode in the background – It's nonsense, ignore it and the temptation to give into those kinds of anxiety producing thoughts.
7. Get out – Even if you go out alone.  Go to as crowded a place as you can find to celebrate.  Do NOT stay home – By yourself.  Focus on having fun! – Not finding that perfect person.  Planning on meeting the perfect person is such a waste of time.  Go places to enjoy yourself – That special person will find you – Eventually.  Setting yourself up with the expectation of going places and doing things for the purpose of meeting someone special and falling into a virtual pool of bliss is garbage.  Not only will you be disappointed when you leave, but you'll base future experiences on that disappointment.
8. Believe – Go to church.  There has never been a more organized and focused group gathered in one place who wanted to see their family and friends in a state of happiness.  You'll meet tons of new, interesting and like-minded people.
9. If you have extra to give this is one time of year when those who do not have any extra will more humbly appreciate your presence and your gracious gift giving in their lives.  And they know people too – Good and neat people you could very well be interested in meeting!  And BTW – Certain Gifts can give you a tax write off that can be carried forward up to five (5) years.  *See this gift info for more details.
10. Go ahead and stress out – About rush hour traffic, feeding the dog, what you are going to wear to work today – the things you can actually control and have input on.  Let go of those things that cause you anxiety and fear and frustration – You cannot control those things, so your option is to take control of yourself and your life.
11. Every action you take requires a "Re-Action" from the universe – Set your own wheels in motion.  Believe that you are amazing, special and wonderful and that you will be successful finding your perfect partner and that celebrating the holidays single will not last forever – that theory is simply against the force of nature (You beast!).

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