Dating Secrets From Men – For Women

What Works With Men-Real Dating Secrets

Men's Successful Dating Secrets-For Women

Find out from men what really works – and what really doesn't – when it comes to dating

The Broken Connection:

She woke up and looked at her calendar.  It had been two weeks since her date and he hadn't bothered to call her back – not even to thank her for driving him home.  Has something like that ever happened to you?  Imagine it has happened to you.  It has happened to all of us once in our life.

Did you meet someone who you thought would be the Prince Charming of your life, the Mr. Perfect for you, but once you got to know him, you found out that his feelings for you weren't even close to that same level of intensity.  Maybe you haven't even heard from him in two weeks and his life doesn't seem to have stopped like yours did.  Yes, we have ALL been there.

Were you left to wonder why and how you could have possibly felt that connection with him and why he never initiated a deeper or further connection with you and turned tail and seemed to 'run,' instead?

Have you exhausted your girlfriends trying to figure out why your Prince Charming turned into a retard in tinfoil?

Here is your first hint – Stop asking your girlfriends what MEN are thinking.  Ask other MEN if you truly want know the answer.

Sex Too Soon:

"I'm not that kind of girl," she stammered as she slipped out of her  panties and bra and fondled him and kissed his mouth deeply.  "I don't sleep with someone on the first date!" he heard her murmuring into his ear as he caressed her breasts.

Did you sleep with a man immediately after you met him for the first time, and once you were right in the middle of your orgy for two you got that feeling of, "Oh boy is THIS ever going to be a mistake!"And then you went ahead and had sex too early anyway.  Do you remember what happened after that?

That's right – Nothing happened because you never saw him again.  Ask yourself and answer yourself honestly – "Were you REALLY surprised with the outcome?"

The Commitment Conversation That Makes Men Disappear:

"We were dating for two months and getting along Great, when I decided to sit him down and talk to him about making our relationship  more 'permanent.'  Like a magician, he was GONE," she explained to her group of friends.  "I just don't know what happened!"  "One minute we were calling and texting every day and the next minute I couldn't even get him to say, 'Hi,' anymore," she lamented to no one listening.

Did you soothe yourself with choruses of, "Oh, he's just a jerk and doesn't know what he is missing," coming from your – GIRLFRIENDS.

Stop asking your girlfriends for advice on what MEN are thinking.  Ask a man, or even a group of men.

You might find out that he wasn't even a, "jerk," at all.  Maybe you were, "the jerk."

Failed Dating Relationship Red Flags – Dating Secrets Tips to Help You:

Needy and Insecure go off in a man's head like Fourth of July Fireworks.  Maybe you don't even realize you are behaving this way.  Some of the most confident people we know convey these emotions once in awhile.  If you are guilty of these behaviors then stop.

 - Negative speak 1:  Talking badly about same sex people in your life – For every finger you are pointing outward at someone else on this one, there are two fingers pointing back at you.

- Negative Speak 2: Talking badly about the other boyfriends or past partners you've been involved with.  It's a sure-fire sabotage move on your part that says you have, "baggage."

 - PDA: Public Display of Affection: 

You may be enjoying pulling your guy close every chance you get for that warm, fuzzy smooch in public or pat on his privates, but you can be guaranteed that he is thinking, "Stop crawling all over me in front of my friends and family and co-workers!"

Mostly he won't say a thing to you about it.  He will disengage instead.  He'll start crawling back into his 'man-cave,' away from YOU.  Here is that touchy part – Men do like to be touched and they like it in private or for a special moment – A spontaneous moment.  Save those moments between the two of you so that those private moments stand out to him as special and enchanting.

- Primarily Sexual:  Sex Too Early

Sex and Emotions are two different things for men.  They can either connect those two – Or not connect them.  Having sex too early is one way to find out quickly whether they do  . . . or whether they don't.

If you believe that by giving into sex quickly you can 'trap' a man into an emotional relationship with you – kind of like having loaded bases  means that the next play guarantees you a home run then you may be disappointed to find out that this simply may not be true.

Men are no different than women in that they want the full relationship 'deal.'  Men want fulfillment both sexually AND emotionally.

If you recognize and understand this important piece of information, you will be the one who gets his heart.  The double bonus – You get the same fulfilled relationship for yourself that he gets because you are giving it to each other.

 - Size Does Matter – Relationship Potential Size!

Attraction can be a delusion.  It can diminish your ability to look at a partner or mate in 'terms of infatuation,' instead of,  'terms of reality.'

Yes, being attracted to a man is absolutely important.  Not paying attention to hazardous warning signs that you are with the wrong person is just asking for heartache down the road.

There's an old joke that I heard years ago that still makes me laugh – Don't be that joke.  It goes like this:

"Mommy, mommy, I'm tired of running around in circles!"

"Shut-Up, Kid, Or I'll nail your OTHER foot to the floor!"

Life is precious.  Don't waste your time or energy with a person who is not or will not be 'right' for you.  Learn to spot your own red flag dating signs and get right back in line so that you are not left heartbroken waving a hanky and sobbing out the word, "Next!" Be that confident  person in line beside you with the smile and  dedication to move forward.  And remember that when it comes to recognizing successful dating secrets to never look back -  You're NOT going that way!

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