Are You Considering Reconciling With Your Whacked Out Ex – Are You Nuts!?!

Or, Maybe Reconciliation With A Crazy Ex Is  . . . .

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When you are Dating someone who turns out to be a nut job the old adage about, "if at first you don't succeed, try, try again," does NOT mean you should go back for more abuse from a crazy psycho.

It means you should MOVE ON to a relationship more suited to your healthier aspirations of a lifelong partnership with a true loving friend and partner.  Your Perfect Match.

Reconcile With Your Psycho Ex – Abuse Symptoms

"I felt threatened and scared, and sexually insecure."  This statement is a common mantra coming from people involved in these predictable and cyclic psycho-narcissistic relationships.

Symptoms of abuse are often overlooked in the initial phases of dating, because of their purposefully and deceitfully masked qualities.

When involved romantically with a narcissistic lover the cues are normally subtle and unquestioned.  The relationship evolves slowly.  The abusive signals often go undetected because the abused doesn't or refuses to acknowledge or identify the abuse.  They think that in some benign way they did some, 'thing,' to cause the bad behavior, or (worse) that they somehow deserve the treatment they are getting (Pure crap this mindset), or that it is a 'one-time only incident and doesn't reflect on the true nature of their dating partner (If someone does something once, they will do it again . . . and again, often escalating bad behavior with time).

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Power and control is an agenda play by the abuser.  It becomes steadily more identifiable and makes less sense with the progression of bad behavior and time.  It feels 'icky.'  But in the end you must admit that you were swept off of your feet.

Reconcile With Your Psycho Ex-Why It Feels Bad

When the skids hit the dirt you may feel embarrassed that you were "fooled."  Or maybe you believe that being an intelligent human being that you, "should have known better."  That's nonsense.  Identify the fact that bad things happen to good people and Move On.

Ask yourself, "Why?" Are You Reconciling With Your Ex

Like a stalker, these relationships have no closure.  You may find yourself doing just fine after a break-up or disconnect from this person, but you are faced with that person pleading, swearing, trying to convince you they are different (or they will change – only if you believe in miracles), making you laugh, demeaning your past episodic problems together, and in general becoming that wonderful person whom "you always knew was there," "on the inside".

It's a fantasy – You will be going back to the same relationship you left.

Reconcile With Your Psycho Ex-Understanding & Playing Their Game

You are the pawn in this dangerous game.  You are the person that must be won back.  You are no longer a human being, but a game playing piece to defeat and conquer.  Forget about finding a true friend and partner.  This is their game and they have only one intention – To win it (you).

If a fair amount of time has elapsed between your breakup and you have re-established your life without them you may find them to be suddenly supportive, compassionate, vulnerable and full of empathy and asking for forgiveness.

The only quality you can show this type of psycho narcissistic person is strength.  It is the single quality they respect – in anyone.  As long as you keep that quality in check you can have a relationship with them – but only then.  Old, bad behavior quickly replaces these good qualities if you don't.

Reconciliation Reasons Make Poor Excuses With A Psycho Ex

If you have other reasons for reconciling with this wacked out version of a healthy person – You are needy, you can't survive financially on your own, you give in to the threats out of frustration or despair, then you are sunk and doomed to endure a horrid relationship experience.  Shortly after any of these reasons are identified every attempt to repeat controlling behavior and mistreatment of you will resume quickly (if not immediately).  The transformation from groveling, apologetic lover to bully can be startling in its astutely quick return to bad behavior.

If your separation was a long term one then your chances of resuming a normal relationship are even less.  That is because your ex is the kind of person who needs to divide and conquer.  You will be berated, publicly humiliated, threatened, be exposed to unpredictable behavior, have other people used against you to intimidate you and experience these and other symptoms of ambient abuse (Taken From Wiki Answers: "Ambient abuse,  is the fostering, propagation, and enhancement of an atmosphere of fear, intimidation, instability, unpredictability and irritation. There are no acts of traceable explicit abuse, nor any manipulative settings of control. Yet, the irksome feeling remains, a disagreeable foreboding, a premonition, a bad omen.  In the long term, such an environment erodes the victim's sense of self-worth and self-esteem.").

Recognize that theirs is (sadly) a commonly known situation.  You may have experienced this before.  That doesn't mean you have to experience it again.  Get out.  Get information and advice.  Seek what professional help you may want or need.  Learn ways to meet and have relationships with the people who truly want to care about and care for you.  Stay away from these other kinds of people.

Reconcile With Your Psycho Ex – Just Say, (HELL) "NO!"

Just because you were a "Bad Picker," doesn't mean you have to keep being one.  Take control of your choices and live the life you desire!  Just take control.  See you on the healthy side!  Now Just Imagine THAT!

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