Turn-Offs

TURN-OFFS: The BIGGEST Mistakes Men And Women Make On First Dates:

First Dates: A Dating Portland Oregon Dating Survival Guide

In general people decide within their first three dates whether or not they want to continue in a relationship with a particular person. Following is a Dating Portland Oregon Survival Guide to help you make it through those first three dates.

Given the fact that some people can decide in the first three minutes whether or not they want to see a person again, these lists are great guidelines if you are dating, or thinking about dating again.

Turn Offs - What Women Don't Like On A Date: Mistakes Men Make

1. Talking About Your Ex Too Much.
Ex-girlfriend or ex-wife, it doesn't matter. Positive or negative comments, it doesn't matter. Talking about your ex in any capacity, is better left for dates in the future. Far in the future.

2. Not Focusing On Your Date.
Be discrete if you notice someone else in the room while a date. Don't flirt with other women, and stay focused on your date. For instance notice if she needs something from a waiter, or if her hands are full and you need to open the door for her. Don't worry about noticing every detail just be considerate and pay attention to what's going on in front of you with your date.

3. Talk Only About Yourself-Double Whammy, Being A Braggart.
These two things will have your date screaming (just before she declines a second date request from you), "Large ego, small penis, BIG Boor. "

4. Not Giving Clues About Whether Or Not You're Interested In Your Date (Or Giving False Clues).
If you know you want to go out with someone again but you need some time to think about it tell them that you enjoyed the date and leave it at that. This keeps your possibilities open, but doesn't convey false hopes. If you know you're not going to go out someone again simply be polite, but don't give her a false hope that you will call her for again. For instance don't say, "I'll call you," and then never call. That method is simply juvenile and cruel.

5. Poor Hygiene.
Be especially aware of odors on a first date. You have three seconds to make a first impression. Use soap, and water, and brush your teeth. Be that kissable person.

6. Patronizing Your Date Or Talking To Her Like A Child.
Treat your date as an intellectual equal. Talk down to her and risk an ego stinging, sarcastic response, or worse yet an abrupt end of your date with a walkout. Your date might just vote with her feet and leave.

7 . Lying.
Women hate a man who doesn't tell the truth. In this day and age it's fairly easy to check. Honesty is the best policy. If you begin your date with a lie, you probably won't get past the first date. One women shared that she met a man and liked him and that he told her that he was 12 years younger than he actually was. Once he showed up the lie was obvious. The woman who reported this story had this to say, "If he lied about his age-Something so benign and simple-What else will he lie about – With no conscience. I listened to his reasons for lying, and walked out of the room and went home- Alone."

Turn Offs - What Men Don't Like On A Date: Mistakes Women Make

1. Lack Of Appreciation For Your Date's Efforts.
Even if you don't like the restaurant you're going to show appreciation for his efforts. If you voice displeasure over his restaurant choice, for example, he will feel personally responsible, because he took you there, and he wants you to be happy. He is not responsible for your personal happiness so get over it, bite your lip and try something you've never eaten before – Do not be a grouch!

2. Complaining, Not Smiling, And In General, Not Having A Good Time.
Don't be that one who is a whiner or complainer, and smile at least once in a while. These gestures of appreciation will keep you from being taken home as quickly as possible.

3. Asking Too Many Personal Questions Too Early, As If You Are Quizzing Your Date.
You can demonstrate a genuine interest in the person you're with, without interrogating them. Your marital partner checklist is not valid on the first several dates. These first dates are meant to be fun and designed to see if you are compatible, so lighten up.

4. Gold Digging.

Questions about his car, his job, his house, his finances are extremely personal and unless you know your date better, their financial status is none of your business at this point. Men want to be loved and appreciated for themselves, and they will notice the drool on your lip if they mention having a two-car garage.

5. An Insincere Woman-A Date Who Is Not Genuine.
Just be yourself, because men are pretty savvy when it comes to detecting phony personalities. Being someone you really are not, or 'pretentiousness,' is truly a turnoff to most men.

6. Too Much Makeup.
There is a preference among men for women who look naturally pretty. They're not concerned if you don't wear makeup. They're also not concerned if you do wear makeup as long as it doesn't look phony and enhances your natural beauty instead of making you look like an alien. As an aside FYI men also reported that they like well manicured hands with a more natural look versus really long fingernails painted vibrantly.

7. A Date That Can't Be Touched.
One item that shows up repeatedly for men is that they want someone they can have fun with-A play mate. Someone who can't muss their hair or participate in events because they might get dirty, probably has a hard time getting past a first date. Men just don't like a woman who is so obsessed with her looks that she won't have fun with him. That doesn't mean they want you to go out and jump in a duck pond with them to go swimming, but if you won't let them put the top down on their convertible then they will find someone who will – Just not you.

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Can you guess what the most important words are on a first date?

1) "Please"

AND

2) "Thank You"

You'll never regret using these two phrases in

abundance on that first date – ANY date.

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