Turn Ons

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The Biggest Turn Ons For Men And Women To Impress Their Date With

Turn Ons – What Women Like:

1 - A Date Who Shows Genuine Interest In Her.

This seems to be a number one with the majority of people. Show genuine interest is easy if you simply listen to your date and ask questions about the information they share with you or the answers to the questions you ask of them. It goes along with letting her know if you are interested in seeing her again.

If you really aren't interested, don't lead her on – This goes for men AND women. If you don't want to hurt their feelings then do not make statements that you have no intention of following up on, like, "I'll call you," or "Let's hook up again – I can't wait (am looking forward to, . . . ) to see you again." Likewise, if you ARE interested then before you leave tell them.

2 – A Date Who Focuses Only On Her For The Date.

If you have a tendency to be shy and avoid eye contact, then now is a good time to practice making good eye contact. Now is not the time to be looking at the floor or around the room, or at other people.

3 - A Date Who Acts Like A Gentleman.

It seems that men are taking some heat now-a-days for opening doors for women. But guess what – The majority of women still want their doors opened. If you aren't sure which then go ahead and take a chance on opening the door, because good manners will never go out of style and it's better to find out earlier than later. Being a gentleman is more than opening doors. Being a gentleman is an attitude of concern about whether you are helpful in making your date feel comfortable and at ease (safe) with you. Opening a door to show dominance and control is not acceptable – There is a difference, so be observant, but show class.

4 - Good Hygiene And Grooming.

Before you walk out the door to meet your date, make sure you have these things:

Fresh Breath
Freshly bathed or showered
Combed or brushed hair
Clean clothes
Take pride in your appearance

Cologne or Fragrance Dating Tip – Better to have your date snuggle up to you to ask you what scent you are wearing than to have them ask (while scrunching up their nose and squinting) what scent you are wearing as soon as they open the door to meet you.
In the option of wearing cologne or perfume – Less is better.

5 - Non-Threatening Touching.

When people have chemistry together, they will touch each other – non-sexual. When touching is done in a not threatening way – putting your hand on the table when you get to your table for dinner and touching the other persons hand while you are talking to each other, or touching their arm as you walk out the door or to the car together, for instance, then it is a turn on. Just remember that if you want to create an atmosphere of warmth – Subtle and affectionate touching only on a first date. No grabbing or constant touching – This has the opposite effect, and may cause a red hand-print on your face – Or worse.

6 – Genuine And Sincere Flattery.

Find something to give your date a genuine compliment on. Don't be fake. If you truly want a long term relationship with a soul mate then focus on those things that have nothing to do with looks-For instance tell your date how much you like their jokes, or talking to them. Telling them how fine their ass is and how much you like to touch (or want to touch) them will backfire on you about 99 percent of the time. And, if their looks are the only thing you truly like, then you might want to reconsider dating them again – Because when looks fade (and they will) you better have something to talk about that you both enjoy.

Turn Ons – What Men Like:

1 - Let's face it – Men are visual, they value a good appearance. What they are looking for, though, might surprise you. Men want and look for a woman who looks attractive and who has taken the time to look the best she can. They especially appreciate you if you look healthy and have some form of exercise to stay that way – Not like a body builder or anorexic model, but like someone who cares about their health – That is sexy to them.

Wash your face
Brush your teeth
Bathe or shower
Wear clean clothes
Take pride in your appearance

One woman laughs when she talks about how she met her husband, "I was wearing a pair of cut-off jean shorts and a tank top without any makeup and was outside. I was as plain looking as I could possibly get!" She goes on to explain, "He was working on a job for me, so he maintained a professional distance, but within two weeks after the job was completely finished and his invoice was paid, he phoned and showed up on my doorstep and asked me to go to a movie." "I was sad that I wasn't going to see him again because I was smitten with his professionalism, charm, and handsome good looks so I accepted happily, and it wasn't until years later that he told me that no make-up is how he likes me best."

Perfume Dating Tip – Less is better. Make them get close to you to smell your perfume.

Makeup Dating Tip- Less is better. Let your natural beauty through, or risk being compared to the 'Mimi' character on the "Drew Carey Show – Old TV sitcom."

2 – A Happy, Pleasant Voice.

Sexy, throaty, seductive – Nope, that's not it.
Put a smile on your face whenever you pick up the phone – It will shine through to the caller, no matter what else is going on with you.
If you are feeling whinny, or have a need to complain (about anything), don't answer the phone. Unless you just watched your dog get hit by a car, call that person back, instead, or wait to answer when that needy phone voice passes.

3 – A Woman Who Appreciates Her Dates Efforts.

Let your date know if you love the flowers they bring you, or the restaurant the pick out – Express yourself positively so they know that their effort is appreciated and that they have pleased you. If you are not so enthused don't be fake, but do be polite and do appreciate them with a 'thank you". If you need to complain then call a cab and go home. You can complain there.

4 - Genuinely Interested In Your Date.

Focus your eyes on him when you are talking to him. Listen to what he is saying so you can ask questions. Communicate your interest with non-sexual touching, like a hand close to theirs on the table, a touch on the arm if you are laughing out loud at something they say. If you are interested in seeing that person again – Tell them you had a great time – Sincerely.

5 – Confidence.

Project a feeling of content and happiness within yourself. Your confidence will give your date the information that you are easy to talk to and fun to be around, which actually gives your date more confidence, which is a real turn on. Arrogance and dominance will have the opposite effect. Just be real – be you.

6 - Femininity.

This has nothing to do with being fragile and dainty-looking, but everything to do with allowing a man to feel like a man. Not talking about a man swaggering around you wearing a leaf and toting a club as you giggle and he slurs something primitive that no one can understand, but I am talking about the essence of femininity.

"Words like manhood and masculinity have been expunged from our vocabulary, and we have been told in no uncertain terms that we ought to forget about such things, which amount to nothing more than biology, and concentrate on what it means to be “persons.”"

I am not interested in defending stereotypical roles of feminism, femininity and masculinity. What I am saying here is that a naturally feminine woman will – naturally – attract males.

If you are as feminine as a shoe horn, then that's fine, too, as long as you are you – Simply yourself. Putting on a show just looks phony. Believe it or not, just being yourself naturally is what I am talking about.

If you play a mean armpit drum, though, I suggest you save that bit of information for a later date.

Dating Portland Oregon found these Turn Ons common in both men and women dating: